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You Don’t Need a New Diet. You Need a New Decision-Making Skill

July 23, 20252 min read

"Self-trust is the first secret of success." — Ralph Waldo Emerson suggests

If you're like most of the women I work with inside my Empowered Eating Blueprint program,

You’ve tried cutting carbs.

You’ve tried eating every 3 hours.

You’ve tried “only eat when you’re hungry.”

But you most likely haven't tried asking yourself:

👉 HOW do I decide what to eat?

Because, when it comes to reaching your health and weight loss goals,

It’s not just what you eat that matters.

It’s how you think about what you eat.

And here’s where most diets fall short:

They train you to follow rules, not to build skills.

They teach you:

Always say no to cookies

Always eat 3 meals a day

Always eat every 3–4 hours

But none of that helps when real life happens.

When you’re at a party. Or stressed at work. Or home alone with a box of cookies.

If the only way you can “eat healthy” is by avoiding certain foods or situations…

You’re not building freedom. You’re building fear.

👉 Real progress comes when you learn how to make food decisions based on your values and context, not just rules.

Sometimes, saying yes to a cookie is healthy.

Sometimes, saying no to a cookie is healthy.

But ALWAYS saying yes or no?

That’s not health. That’s rigidity.

And if you've struggled to stick to healthy eating habits in the past,

You don’t need more food rules.

You need a more flexible mindset around food.

So how do you start building that?

Here’s one skill to practice this week:

🧠 Pause before you eat and ask: “What do I need right now—physically, mentally, emotionally?”

Sometimes you’ll realize you need fuel.

Sometimes it will be connection, rest, or relief from boredom.

This one question helps you separate food decisions from emotional reactions.

It helps you respond instead of react.

And it’s one of many “thinking skills” I teach inside the Empowered Eating Blueprint,

Because real behavior change starts in your brain.


If you’ve struggled to stay consistent,

It’s probably not because you lack willpower.

It’s because you’ve been taught to follow rigid rules instead of building real decision-making skills.

And if you're ready to change that,

To actually feel calm, confident, and in control around food...

I’d love to help.

Click HERE to Book a Free Call to learn more about working together inside my Empowered Eating Blueprint program.

We’ll talk about where you’re stuck, what’s not working, and whether this kind of support is right for you.


P.S.

You don't need another “eat this, not that” list of foods.

You need to learn the missing skill most programs ignore:

The ability to think differently around and about food—so that you can trust yourself to make choices you feel proud of, no matter the situation.

Let's build that skill together.

👉 Click here to book a free call

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Coach Amanda Clark

National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach

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