"A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, who has you see what you don’t want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be." ― Tom Landry

When I was a kid, I took guitar lessons.

But I wasn’t interested in learning how to read music or practicing scales...I just wanted to play cool songs.

My teacher had a system:
👉 The first half of our lesson was scales, theory, and the boring stuff.
👉 The second half was learning a song of my choice.

Each week, I got homework in both areas.

And each week…I only practiced the fun stuff.

I’d show up, fumble my way through the scales, make it painfully obvious I hadn’t practiced, and then breeze through the song portion like I was a rock star. 🤘

And my teacher? He never called me out on it.

He was so nice, so patient...and he just let me keep half-assing my way through the technical stuff.

And since I kept getting away with it, I never changed my behavior.

Looking back, I wish he had held me accountable. If he had challenged me a little more, I might have actually learned how to play properly instead of just memorizing a handful of songs.

And honestly? This is exactly why so many women struggle with creating lasting healthy habits.

The Two Types of Coaching You Need
 

There are two kinds of coaches—and you either need to have both, or you need to be both for yourself:

1️⃣ The one who calls you out on your own B.S.
2️⃣ The one who hypes you up and encourages you

A great coach (or mentor, or teacher) knows how and when to be which.

Think about Ted Lasso (if you’ve seen it, and if you haven't...what are you waiting for?!?!).
He’s warm and supportive, but he also holds people accountable.
He tells them when they’re selling themselves short.
He challenges them when they’re not living up to their potential.

That’s why people love him.

He’s not just a hard-ass calling people out all the time, but he’s also not blindly hyping them up with empty praise.

And that balance? It’s what most women are missing when it comes to their health journey.

Why Past Coaching (or Self-Coaching) Hasn’t Worked for You

If you’ve worked with a coach before, but it didn’t lead to lasting progress, chances are…

❌ They were only one type of coach when you really needed the other.
❌ Or you're only coaching yourself one way (and it’s keeping you stuck).

For example:
➡️ If you’ve had a drill sergeant-style coach who just yelled at you to work harder and eat less, but never helped you celebrate your progress—you probably felt like nothing was ever good enough. So you quit.

➡️ If you’ve had a body-positive, intuitive-eating-only coach who never called you out when you weren’t following through—you probably felt seen and supported but still weren’t making any real progress.

But here's the thing, you need both sides.

Because if you’re constantly being torn down, you’ll never feel good enough to keep going.
But if you’re always being let off the hook, you’ll never actually change.

Which One Do You Need More Right Now?
 

Here’s your quick gut check:

👉 If you’re your own biggest critic, always beating yourself up…you probably need more encouragement. More focus on what you are doing right. More celebration of small wins.

👉 If you keep letting yourself off the hook, skipping workouts, stress-eating at night, or making excuses…you probably need more accountability. More structure. More honesty with yourself.

And until you master both, you need a coach who can do both—who can hype you up and hold you to a higher standard.

That’s exactly what I do inside The Empowered Eating Blueprint—because I’ve seen what happens when women only get one side of the equation.

If you’re ready for coaching that actually helps you follow through (without feeling like you're being bullied into change OR coddled into complacency),

👉 Click here to schedule a call and let’s find out if the Empowered Eating Blueprint is the right fit for you.

You don’t need another round of “trying to do it on your own.”

You need a plan that actually fits your life...and a coach who knows when to challenge you and when to cheer you on.

Let’s do this. 🙌