Why Tiny Changes Matter More Than You Think
I’ve been biting my nails for as long as I can remember.
I have memories of being a little kid at my dad’s house, probably 8 or 9 years old, while he painted that awful bitter stuff on my nails that was supposed to stop me from biting them.
Spoiler alert:
It did not work.
For most of my life, my nails were basically little stubs.
And honestly, I just accepted that this was “who I was.”
I was a nail biter.
End of story.
Then, right before I got married in February of 2020, I got my nails painted for the wedding.
Not because I really wanted to.
More because I felt like I was supposed to.
Like:
“Well…brides probably shouldn’t have chewed up nails in their wedding photos.”
But even then, my nails were still super short underneath the polish.
And afterward?
I went right back to biting them.
Nothing really changed.
Then the following year, I was getting ready for an event and decided to get my nails done again.
But this time felt different.
This time, I WANTED to do it.
I wanted to show up differently.
I wanted to feel more put together.
And something shifted.
Not dramatically.
But enough.
I liked how my hands looked.
And more importantly…
I liked how I FELT looking at them.
Which probably sounds ridiculous if you’ve never struggled with something like this.
But for years, every time I looked down at my hands, I saw evidence of a habit I couldn’t seem to change.
Now, I started seeing something different.
Not perfect nails.
Not long glamorous influencer nails.
(As someone with two active dogs, that lifestyle is not for me 😂)
But actual nails.
Healthy nails.
Nails that I had taken care of.
And eventually, I got into the habit of doing them myself every week.
Now it’s become this little self-care ritual that I genuinely enjoy.
I put on a show or podcast, sit down for a while, and just let myself relax and focus on something creative.
But the most important part isn’t the nails themselves.
It’s what they represent.
Because every single time I look at my hands now, I get this tiny reminder:
“Oh. I CAN change.”
Even parts of myself that felt permanent.
Even patterns that existed for decades.
And I think this is where a lot of women get stuck when they think about change.
They focus only on the big picture version of who they want to become.
“I want to be healthier.”
“I want to be more confident.”
“I want to be organized.”
“I want to follow through.”
And while those macro visions are important because they give us direction…
They don’t help bridge the gap between your current self and your future self.
💅 Micro shifts bridge that gap.
Because every action, no matter how small, becomes evidence.
Evidence that:
You can do something differently
You can keep promises to yourself
You are not as fixed as you think you are
I didn’t stop biting my nails because I suddenly became a different person.
I stopped because I started collecting evidence that maybe I wasn’t as stuck as I thought I was.
Change doesn’t always happen through massive transformation.
Sometimes it happens through tiny moments that slowly shift the way you see yourself over time.
So here’s what I want you to think about today:
What’s one small way your future self would show up differently…
Something that you could act on within the next 48 hours using the time, resources, and knowledge you already have?
This doesn't need to be anything dramatic or the most "ideal" version.
It just needs to be enough to give yourself a tiny piece of evidence that you CAN be different.
Send me an email and let me know what comes up for you.
