The Hidden Cost of Not Following Through on Your Health Goals
I want you to imagine someone in your life.
It could be a friend.
A romantic partner.
A family member.
Now imagine they constantly:
criticized you
canceled plans at the last minute
made promises they never kept
let you down over and over again
Would you keep investing in that relationship?
Would you keep showing up as your best self for that person?
Would you continue making sacrifices for them?
Would you trust what they told you?
Most women wouldn't.
But many strong, intelligent, successful women tolerate that exact relationship with themselves every single day.
Every Monday, they promise themselves:
"This week I'm going to work out."
"This week I'm going to meal prep."
"This week I'm going to stop snacking at night."
Then life gets busy, or stressful, or they just don't feel like it, and...
The workouts don't happen.
The meal prep gets pushed off.
The evening snacks creep back in.
And eventually, the promises they made to themselves start feeling...optional.
Of course, if you keep skipping workouts or snacking when you aren't hungry, you're probably not going to reach your health goals.
But there's a bigger cost here.
Because every moment you either follow though on or abandon a commitment you make to yourself,
You're teaching your brain something about the relationship you're building with yourself.
And over time, those moments start sending two really important messages about that relationship.
The first message is:
"Maybe I can't count on myself to follow-through."
Your brain is constantly collecting evidence.
Every time you follow through, it collects evidence that you're someone who keeps your word.
Every time you don't, it collects evidence that maybe you're not.
The second message is:
"My needs can wait."
Every time your own commitment is the first thing to get pushed aside or something that you'll "get to later",
Your brain collects evidence that taking care of yourself is optional and that everyone else's needs come before your own.
And those two messages...
They reinforce each other.
If you don't believe you can count on yourself...
AND you don't believe your needs deserve protecting...
Of course it becomes harder to keep showing up for yourself.
Now, like I said,
Your brain is always collecting evidence.
Which means you can start changing the story about your relationship with yourself by gathering NEW evidence.
Evidence that you CAN count on yourself and that you DESERVE to take care of yourself.
And you do that by setting and keeping ONE small commitment.
Then another.
Then another.
That's how goals are reached.
But more importantly...
That's how trust is rebuilt.
That's how you begin repairing the relationship you have with yourself.
And that's how you become someone you can truly rely on.
So here's what I'd love for you to think about today:
What's one small commitment you could make to yourself this week...
That you're confident you can keep?
Send me an email and let me know.
I'd love to hear what it is.
