Stop Trying to Get Rid of Negative Thoughts About Food (Do This Instead)
"You can also compare thinking to quicksand. The more that we fight our thinking, the more it amplifies the negative emotions and the worse it gets." — Joseph Nguyen
Ever catch yourself in that painful cycle of beating yourself up...for beating yourself up about food?
You know the thoughts:
"What's wrong with me? I should have more self-control..."
"I'm such a failure—I can't even stick to my plan for a week..."
"Everyone else seems to have this figured out except me..."
"I'm so weak—why can't I just get it together?"
Sound familiar?
You might assume these kinds of self-critical thoughts mean there’s something wrong with you.
That if you were truly “doing it right,” you wouldn't judge or criticize yourself around food.
That the healthy, confident women you see online must have conquered their inner critic—like it’s not even there anymore.
And I get why you'd think that.
Because everywhere you look, the message seems to be:
“Just love yourself more.”
“Practice gratitude.”
“Repeat affirmations until you believe them.”
So maybe you’ve tried journaling. Or meditation apps. Or the "love yourself" pep talks…
...and yet that voice in your head keeps showing up.
But what if I told you trying to get rid of negative thoughts is part of the problem?
And worse—what if I told you it might actually be making your relationship with food harder?
Here’s the truth:
👉 Those thoughts? They’re actually proof your brain is doing its job.
Your brain evolved to scan for threats. And not just physical ones—social threats, too.
Which means it’s constantly analyzing: “Am I messing this up? Will people judge me? Am I falling behind?”
That self-critical voice? It’s not a character flaw.
It’s your brain trying to protect you.
So the issue isn’t having negative thoughts.
It’s believing those thoughts mean something about who you are.
That’s why inside my Empowered Eating Blueprint program, I teach my clients a simple but powerful mindset tool:
✨ The N-C-R Framework ✨
Notice: Observe your thoughts without judgment.
Challenge: Get curious about whether they’re actually true.
Reframe: Create a new perspective that serves you better.
Here’s what that can look like...
Thought: “I have no self-control around food.”
Notice: “There’s that old self-criticism again.”
Challenge: “Is this really about control—or am I trying to use willpower to override my body’s signals?”
Reframe: “My body is wired to seek food. Learning how to work with it—not against it—is the healthier choice.”
Thought: “I’m such a failure—I can’t stick to anything.”
Notice: “This is my all-or-nothing mindset showing up.”
Challenge: “Would I speak to a friend like this?”
Reframe: “Every eating experience is data. It’s helping me understand myself better.”
Of course, it’s not always easy to do this on your own...
This kind of mindset work relies on 3 core behavior change skills:
✅ Noticing skills – To catch the thoughts before they spiral
✅ Thinking skills – To see your thoughts as just thoughts
✅ Self-Parenting skills – To respond with wisdom instead of judgment
And like any skill, they take time (and support!) to build.
That’s why the Empowered Eating Blueprint isn’t just about information.
It’s about guided practice, expert coaching, and building the inner tools that create long-term change.
Because you don’t need another food rule.
👉 You need to learn how to think differently about food—and about yourself.
Ready to stop fighting your negative thoughts and start working with your brain instead of against it?
The next round of the Empowered Eating Blueprint is opening soon—and enrollment is limited to ensure each woman gets personalized support.
✨ Want early access and a special bonus when enrollment opens?
