"Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become." — James Clear

If you’ve struggled to build consistency with healthy habits,

And if you've said something like “I know what I should do. I just can’t seem to get myself to do it”,

It might not be a discipline problem.

But rather, an identity problem.

Stay with me because most women completely miss this...

Let’s do a little exercise together:

Close your eyes and imagine a woman who feels vibrant, healthy, and confident.

Picture her walking into a room...

Notice how she carries herself.

How is she dressed?

What kind of energy does she give off?

What’s her posture like?

How does she speak about herself?

What does she do for fun?

How does she nourish her body?

Take a second.

Got her in your mind?

Now let me guess — was she:

✅ Standing tall, head up, relaxed shoulders

✅ Wearing something colorful or expressive

✅ Smiling, maybe laughing easily

✅ Speaking kindly about herself

✅ Moving with ease and confidence

✅ Enjoying food without guilt, but also taking care of her body

Now…flip it.

Imagine a woman who feels drained, defeated, and “off track.”

How does she walk into a room?

What is she wearing?

What’s her expression?

How does she talk about her body?

What’s her vibe when she’s eating or exercising?

Different picture, right?

👉 Here’s the important question:

Does woman #1 act that way because she already feels vibrant, healthy, and confident?

Or does she feel vibrant, healthy, and confident because she does those things?

The answer is...both.

Because, identity and behavior live in a loop:

🔁 Your identity shapes your behavior.

🔁 Your behavior reinforces your identity.

The problem?

You’ve lived in your current identity for so long that you barely even notice it anymore.

You don’t feel like the kind of woman who wears the bright dress or signs up for the dance class — because you haven’t been that woman.

And because you haven’t been that woman…you don’t act like her.

👉 This is why behavior change feels so hard.

You’re trying to change your ACTIONS without ever changing the STORY you tell yourself about who you are.

What does this actually look like in real life?

• You tell yourself “I have no self-control around food”...but then expect yourself to stick to a super strict meal plan.

• You believe “I’m just not disciplined”...but then set goals that require massive discipline to achieve.

• You label yourself “an emotional eater”...but then get frustrated when emotions trigger your old patterns.

• You see yourself as “someone who hates exercise”...but keep trying to force yourself into intense workout programs.

• You say “I’m an all-or-nothing person”...but then wonder why you struggle to maintain balance.

In every case, your behaviors are fighting against the identity you’re still holding onto.

And no matter how hard you try to change the habit…if the STORY you believe about yourself stays the same, you’ll keep getting pulled back to what feels familiar.

So how do you start shifting that story?

Not with discipline...

But with DISRUPTION.

Disrupting how you see yourself in small, tangible ways — right now.

Here’s a simple 4-step process you can use to start seeing yourself differently this week :

1️⃣ Name your future self.

Give her a name. This gives your brain something concrete to aim for.

When your brain has a specific identity to attach to, it can start to filter decisions and behaviors through that lens:

"What would {Your Name 2.0} choose right now?"

It shifts your focus from “trying to be better” to “showing up as her.”

2️⃣ Describe her in vivid detail.

How does she dress? Move? Speak? What does her energy feel like? What habits feel automatic for her?

The clearer your vision, the more believable it becomes.

👉 If you need help with this step, check out this training inside my free Facebook group, The Messy Practice.

3️⃣ Pick a “disruptive” micro-behavior.

Choose one tiny action that breaks your usual pattern.

It does NOT have to be about diet or exercise.

👉 Style your hair differently.

👉 Paint your nails if you usually don’t.

👉 Light a candle during dinner.

👉 Play different music while you get ready.

👉 Wear earrings you usually “save for a special occasion.”

These small shifts help break the autopilot version of “you.”

They create evidence:

"Look at me doing something different. I can become someone new."

And the more evidence you collect, the more believable that new identity becomes.

4️⃣ Talk to Current You like Future You is already here.

Not “Someday I’ll be that person.”

But:

“I’m already becoming the kind of woman who prioritizes herself.”

"I’m practicing showing up as my 2.0 self every single day."

Why does this work?

Because your brain LOVES congruency.

The more you reinforce this narrative, the more motivated you feel to behave in ways that align with it.

Your behavior starts matching your self-talk, and your self-talk reinforces your behavior.

So, if you've struggled to build consistency with healthy habits,

The problem isn’t that you don’t know what to do.

The problem is that you’re trying to change your ACTIONS while clinging to an old STORY about who you believe you are.

👉 Lasting change happens when you shift both.

You need new behaviors that reinforce your new identity.

And you need to start embodying that new identity — even in small ways — so those behaviors feel natural instead of forced.

That’s the loop that makes consistency feel easier, not harder.

So let me ask you:

👉 What’s one small “disruption” you could do this week to show yourself you ARE becoming someone new?

Hop on over to IG and send me a DM — I’d love to hear what you come up with!